IT’S NOT MY PROBLEM… My favorite image of a team is the 2-person bobsled. (Known fact:  I LOVE THE OLYMPICS!!!!) Imagine for a moment that the…

What do you see when you look at this image? Do you see a carved goblet? Or do you see two faces, almost touching their noses?…

Have you looked in a mirror lately? You were probably looking for something: spinach stuck in your teeth from lunch, a stain on your shirt, another laugh line. “The mirror…

Have A Crappy Day! One of the good things about positive psychology is that it encourages individuals to view the glass as half full instead of half empty….

Have you survived something very difficult in your life? A tough childhood? A major trauma? An abusive marriage? It takes a lot to go through the…

What Does Depression Have to Do With Bread? When you’re making bread the old-fashioned way, using yeast, kneading dough, then putting it in a bowl and letting…

Being Sick Sucks The greatest wealth is health.  ~Virgil Whether it’s a bad chest cold, or a serious diagnosis of a cancer tumor, being sick is just the worst….

Most people I know complain about their pace of life being too fast. “Crazy-busy” fast. They are trying to find a way to add that 25th…

I love my job.  And I know how lucky I am to be able to say that and mean that. I love what I do every…

Many people feel shame and want to know what they can do about that awful black feeling inside, with good reason. Feeling shame is toxic. It…

For those who suffer from depression, mornings are often the worst time. Once the day gets started, a person’s mood usually lifts and energy will return….

I have been using a Life Planner for decades, switching between different types to see which one worked best for me. You may have done the…

If you spend much time online, especially on social networking sites, you’ll get a chance to meet a troll. Okay, not a “real” troll. But in…

You know you need to let go of your need to be in complete control of everything and everyone in your life. Or maybe you don’t…

Many of you will be able to actually hear the GPS system’s voice in your head when you read the words: “You have reached your destination!”…

Have you ever decided you were going to make a change in how you eat or how active you are and you make a plan and…

Filtering Difficult Experiences I’m a big fan of the emotional equivalent of “emptying the trash.” By writing in a journal people get in touch with their…

Pets for Mental Health Pets add immeasurably to the quality of life…. so much so that I have often advised clients to get one in order…

Graduating from a school, college, or program is supposed to be one of those “happy” events we celebrate, falling in the same category of major life…

In the progress of personality, first comes a declaration of independence, then a recognition of interdependence. ~Henry Van Dyke So where do you place yourself on…

In the spirit of the holidays at this time of year, I decided it was time to learn more about Kwanzaa. All I really knew about…

I’m probably the best procrastinator in the world. I could have procrastinated for England… if I got round to it and didn’t keep getting distracted by…

Why are people suffering from depression almost always also very tired? The relationship of depression to fatigue is very complicated, for the following reasons: 1. Fatigue…

I’ve been seeing a lot of couples lately who are in the death throes of the process leading ultimately to divorce. There is no doubt in…

Most people think using a life planner just helps you to remember dentist appointments and when your kid has soccer practice. But there are some great…

If you suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD, then that first cool hint of air untinged by the humidity of summer doesn’t make you feel excited for the…

Maybe this isn’t your problem. Maybe your problem is you’re relaxing TOO much and the dishes have been sitting in the sink in the kitchen for…

Being able to heal past wounds and move on to live a happy, healthy life is a goal of many people who enter therapy. But what…

“No pain, no gain!” Is psychotherapy supposed to hurt?  Is it necessary to wear waterproof mascara to every session?  Are you going to be a royal…

“So, how was your day?” Fine. “What happened in school today?” Nothing. You’re trying to connect. You’re trying to get them to open up. But even…

This blog post is in honor of all Veterans this Veteran’s Day. My heart goes out to each and every somebody out there who has a…

If you suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder, then that first cool hint of air, untinged by the humidity of summer, doesn’t make you feel all excited…

THE SECRET TO A LONG HAPPY RELATIONSHIP I’m going to share with you one of the greatest secrets to a long-lasting, healthy relationship…other than using the…