I’m Just Not Feeling It So, I asked, “You have to wait until you’re able to “get into” doing a chore before you can do it?”…

Are You In “Project Purgatory?” You want to get your garage organized but you know you will never get an entire weekend to get it all…

It is not necessary to change.  Survival is not mandatory. ~W. Edwards Deming This is a time of year when people often are readying themselves for…

The Curtain Falls You might have just hit a rough patch. Or maybe those feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt are part of a larger problem that…

  As a psychologist, I’ve given this a lot of thought, because no matter what someone coming into therapy says they want to work on, eventually,…

COMFY? How Stable is Your Relationship? Take your typical 4-legged wooden stool. It’s nice and stable…if it’s got all 4 legs. You can probably even manage…

Finding the balance is what we are all trying to do… whether we are talking about the balance between work and play, taking care of others…

I became a therapist thinking that people just naturally wanted to change, grow, get better, become healthier… and how cool was that going to be to…

Why Can’t My Psychiatrist Be More Like My Therapist? “My psychiatrist doesn’t listen to me!” “I just walked out with 2 more prescriptions!” “15-minute med checks……

Graduating from a school, college, or program is supposed to be one of those “happy” events we celebrate, falling in the same category of major life…

Are you spending too much going out to eat? Trying to eat healthier, but getting either bored or overwhelmed with the process of meal planning and…

Have you ever decided you were going to make a change in how you eat or how active you are and you make a plan and…

You probably know what it’s like when the smoke alarm goes off.  The sound is so annoying, irritating, and ear-piercingly unbearable. Alarms are this way for…

I’ve been seeing a lot of couples lately who are in the death throes of the process leading ultimately to divorce. There is no doubt in…

Vacation Poor America Of all developed countries in the world, Americans are the worst at taking time off from work. Compared to the good people in England,…

THE SECRET TO A LONG HAPPY RELATIONSHIP I’m going to share with you one of the greatest secrets to a long-lasting, healthy relationship…other than using the…

Why are people suffering from depression almost always also very tired? The relationship of depression to fatigue is very complicated, for the following reasons: 1. Fatigue…

In the progress of personality, first comes a declaration of independence, then a recognition of interdependence. ~Henry Van Dyke So where do you place yourself on…

If you suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD, then that first cool hint of air untinged by the humidity of summer doesn’t make you feel excited for the…

Have A Crappy Day! One of the good things about positive psychology is that it encourages individuals to view the glass as half full instead of half empty….

Don’t Try! I mean it. Don’t try to change. Not one thing. Not your bad habits, your bad behavior, or your bad attitude. Surprising advice from a…

When I am working with clients in therapy, I often share with them this piece of universal wisdom: The extent to which you are willing to…

You and I both know you are not a human Bento box. Trying to “unpack” your health experience by neat packages of symptom categories is not…

Imagine the following scenario: You are in a large, beautiful interior space with everything you need to accomplish any task that is put before you or…

Self-Doubt and Low Self-Esteem Not sure if you’re all that sexy and attractive? Do you constantly need approval from others? Are you never sure that you…

Love the concept of living off the grid? A home that creates its own energy and water supply, so that there is no need to pay…

Filtering Difficult Experiences I’m a big fan of the emotional equivalent of “emptying the trash.” By writing in a journal people get in touch with their…

I’ve Got Some Emotional Baggage Here… “I’m sorry I’m dumping all of my problems on you.” How many times have I heard this from a client?…

Do you think that you’ll be happy when you finally lose those 15-20+ pounds? Do you think that when you find the perfect man/woman, that’s when…

Pets for Mental Health Pets add immeasurably to the quality of life…. so much so that I have often advised clients to get one in order…

Ho, Ho, Ho? It is January 21st today and my Christmas tree is still up. A hectic holiday season that included 2 bouts of the flu,…

Elusive Sleep Insomnia for many people has become a frustrating fact of life.  30% of the population suffers from it, and more than half of Americans…

Babies…cute, cuddly, sweet, adorable.  Right? Well, yes… and no. Now I know some people love taking care of babies and I have incredible respect for anyone…

How Do You Make Dreams Real? You want to write a book, learn how to cook vegan, make a new group of friends, or climb a…