Does This Sound Like You? You set goals for yourself, but if you don’t “feel like it,” you do nothing about them?  You have plans for the day,…

“You Look Fine To Me!” What is it like to live with an invisible illness? It’s different from living with something that everyone around you can…

You and I both know you are not a human Bento box. Trying to “unpack” your health experience by neat packages of symptom categories is not…

In the progress of personality, first comes a declaration of independence, then a recognition of interdependence. ~Henry Van Dyke So where do you place yourself on…

Do you feel stuck?  Nothing’s moving?  Can’t get going? Like when you’ve gotten your car or truck stuck in soft sand. And the harder you try…

Many people feel shame and want to know what they can do about that awful black feeling inside, with good reason. Feeling shame is toxic. It…

Maybe this isn’t your problem. Maybe your problem is you’re relaxing TOO much and the dishes have been sitting in the sink in the kitchen for…

Happy Birth Day! Our daughter turned 12 this week, and I’ve been reflecting on what I have learned about parenting since the day she came into…

If you spend much time online, especially on social networking sites, you’ll get a chance to meet a troll. Okay, not a “real” troll. But in…

Most people I know complain about their pace of life being too fast. “Crazy-busy” fast. They are trying to find a way to add that 25th…

I’m Just Not Feeling It So, I asked, “You have to wait until you’re able to “get into” doing a chore before you can do it?”…

Have you looked in a mirror lately? You were probably looking for something: spinach stuck in your teeth from lunch, a stain on your shirt, another laugh line. “The mirror…

Most people think using a life planner just helps you to remember dentist appointments and when your kid has soccer practice. But there are some great…

You know them… snarky people. The masters of that combination of sarcastic and cynical that ends up being smugly critical and absolutely unbearable to human beings after…

Do you think that you’ll be happy when you finally lose those 15-20+ pounds? Do you think that when you find the perfect man/woman, that’s when…

I’ve Got Some Emotional Baggage Here… “I’m sorry I’m dumping all of my problems on you.” How many times have I heard this from a client?…

What Does Depression Have to Do With Bread? When you’re making bread the old-fashioned way, using yeast, kneading dough, then putting it in a bowl and letting…

Say you are fighting with your significant other. I know.  It’s not fun, but it happens. What do you think your partner wants the most from…

Married With Children. I’ve counseled many couples through the transition from being single to becoming a married couple, and then from being a married couple to…

If you suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD, then that first cool hint of air untinged by the humidity of summer doesn’t make you feel excited for the…

Not everyone makes New Year’s Resolutions… there are some people who don’t see the new year as a time for reinvention, recharging, reconditioning, reenergizing, reinvigorating, and…

Are You In “Project Purgatory?” You want to get your garage organized but you know you will never get an entire weekend to get it all…

It is not necessary to change.  Survival is not mandatory. ~W. Edwards Deming This is a time of year when people often are readying themselves for…

In the spirit of the holidays at this time of year, I decided it was time to learn more about Kwanzaa. All I really knew about…

So you’ve been trying to eat healthier, lose those last 10 pounds, get an exercise program going, learn how to meditate or golf or parent, and…

Cut Your Therapy Bill In Half! Psychotherapists can do so much to improve mental health.  They can provide information, teach you skills you need to learn…

Finding the balance is what we are all trying to do… whether we are talking about the balance between work and play, taking care of others…

Babies…cute, cuddly, sweet, adorable.  Right? Well, yes… and no. Now I know some people love taking care of babies and I have incredible respect for anyone…

I have been using a Life Planner for decades, switching between different types to see which one worked best for me. You may have done the…

“So, how was your day?” Fine. “What happened in school today?” Nothing. You’re trying to connect. You’re trying to get them to open up. But even…

How do you get over an addiction to food? You’re Not Addicted to Food To be clear, you can’t have an addiction to food. Or if…

Filtering Difficult Experiences I’m a big fan of the emotional equivalent of “emptying the trash.” By writing in a journal people get in touch with their…

There are over 100 million Americans who suffer from chronic pain.  If you have ever experienced severe pain that lasts over a week, you know the…

Love the concept of living off the grid? A home that creates its own energy and water supply, so that there is no need to pay…