“No pain, no gain!” Is psychotherapy supposed to hurt?  Is it necessary to wear waterproof mascara to every session?  Are you going to be a royal…

Self-Doubt and Low Self-Esteem Not sure if you’re all that sexy and attractive? Do you constantly need approval from others? Are you never sure that you…

Imagine you’re given two choices about getting something done: Choice #1: Do it or else bad things are going to happen to you.      …

“We are our choices.” ~Jean Paul Sartre Do you have trouble making decisions? Is it hard for you to choose between options? Or are you great…

Got Critics? Do you have people in your life who are, shall we say, “unsupportive” of you? How about downright discouraging? Critical? Judgmental? Dismissive? It may…

I love my job.  And I know how lucky I am to be able to say that and mean that. I love what I do every…

Why are people suffering from depression almost always also very tired? The relationship of depression to fatigue is very complicated, for the following reasons: 1. Fatigue…

Most people I know complain about their pace of life being too fast. “Crazy-busy” fast. They are trying to find a way to add that 25th…

“I’m Tired of Taking These Pills!” You want to stop taking your medication. It’s too expensive.  You’re feeling the stigma at the pharmacy, thinking people are looking…

The Holidays Are Coming! For many people, that means increased contact with family and extended family members… a source of love and support for some, a…

Love the concept of living off the grid? A home that creates its own energy and water supply, so that there is no need to pay…

It is not necessary to change.  Survival is not mandatory. ~W. Edwards Deming This is a time of year when people often are readying themselves for…

If you’ve ever suffered an important loss in your life…whether it was the loss of a loved one, a beloved pet, or a special dream…then you…

Many people feel shame and want to know what they can do about that awful black feeling inside, with good reason. Feeling shame is toxic. It…

Elusive Sleep Insomnia for many people has become a frustrating fact of life.  30% of the population suffers from it, and more than half of Americans…

I became a therapist thinking that people just naturally wanted to change, grow, get better, become healthier… and how cool was that going to be to…

Have you ever decided you were going to make a change in how you eat or how active you are and you make a plan and…

What Does Depression Have to Do With Bread? When you’re making bread the old-fashioned way, using yeast, kneading dough, then putting it in a bowl and letting…

COMFY? How Stable is Your Relationship? Take your typical 4-legged wooden stool. It’s nice and stable…if it’s got all 4 legs. You can probably even manage…

Would You Know What To Do? You get the phone call that your 79-year-old grandmother has just been admitted to the hospital and when you get…

I’ve been seeing a lot of couples lately who are in the death throes of the process leading ultimately to divorce. There is no doubt in…

Ho, Ho, Ho? It is January 21st today and my Christmas tree is still up. A hectic holiday season that included 2 bouts of the flu,…

Cut Your Therapy Bill In Half! Psychotherapists can do so much to improve mental health.  They can provide information, teach you skills you need to learn…

Do you think that you’ll be happy when you finally lose those 15-20+ pounds? Do you think that when you find the perfect man/woman, that’s when…

Vacation Poor America Of all developed countries in the world, Americans are the worst at taking time off from work. Compared to the good people in England,…

Mental Health Medication If you take psychotropic medications, meaning anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medications, mood stabilizers, or anti-psychotic medications, it’s not unusual that at one time or another…

Still, gearing up for the holidays or dealing with the aftermath of them? Either way, it can be stressful. Here are some tried-and-true tips for getting…

Many of you will be able to actually hear the GPS system’s voice in your head when you read the words: “You have reached your destination!”…

“So, how was your day?” Fine. “What happened in school today?” Nothing. You’re trying to connect. You’re trying to get them to open up. But even…

Pets for Mental Health Pets add immeasurably to the quality of life…. so much so that I have often advised clients to get one in order…

When I am working with clients in therapy, I often share with them this piece of universal wisdom: The extent to which you are willing to…

In the progress of personality, first comes a declaration of independence, then a recognition of interdependence. ~Henry Van Dyke So where do you place yourself on…

I’m Not IN LOVE Anymore I know you’ve heard this. You might have said it. “I LOVE her, but I’m not IN LOVE with her anymore.”…

Not everyone makes New Year’s Resolutions… there are some people who don’t see the new year as a time for reinvention, recharging, reconditioning, reenergizing, reinvigorating, and…