When I am working with clients in therapy, I often share with them this piece of universal wisdom: The extent to which you are willing to cope with reality is the extent to which you can be mentally healthy. It’s just a phenomenon I have observed over the past 25 years of working with people as a psychologist […]
You know you need to let go of your need to be in complete control of everything and everyone in your life. Or maybe you don’t yet. Either way, something is going to happen to you that is going to challenge you and make you see that you don’t, as a matter of fact, have control over everything
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Happy Birth Day! Our daughter turned 12 this week, and I’ve been reflecting on what I have learned about parenting since the day she came into the world… “Yes! Make Her Cry!” Hayley’s birth was very quiet and peaceful. I went inward to focus on the job at hand, and gave everything I had…and then more. Thankful and
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So you’ve been trying to eat healthier, lose those last 10 pounds, get an exercise program going, learn how to meditate or golf or parent, and be to work on time every single day for a month. Yeah. Just that. Doesn’t seem like it should be impossible, but somehow you can’t seem to get all of those plates
You and I both know you are not a human Bento box. Trying to “unpack” your health experience by neat packages of symptom categories is not what the average person has been trained to do. Your physician, on the other hand, has been trained to conceptualize and diagnose health issues based on gathering symptom information in a specific way. Why
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Who Gets Sick? When Dr. Sheldon Cohen and his team at Carnegie Mellon University studied which participants became sick after having a cold or flu virus squirted in their noses and then isolating them in a hotel room (I know, you’re thinking, “How can I get a spot in that study?!”), they found that the people who did NOT get sick had several things in
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For those who suffer from depression, mornings are often the worst time. Once the day gets started, a person’s mood usually lifts and energy will return. But those first few moments of having to adjust to a day when everything feels bleak is beyond challenging. Here are 6 proven ways to make depressing mornings easier! 1. Use Light
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The Submarine Expert My husband tells this awesome story: Something’s gone wrong on a nuclear submarine and they call in “the expert” to help figure it out and fix it. So he comes aboard and spends about an hour walking up and down the entire submarine, finally bends down and takes out a small hammer and puts one
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It is not necessary to change. Survival is not mandatory. ~W. Edwards Deming This is a time of year when people often are readying themselves for change. The start of a new year is only days away. You might be thinking about making some New Year’s Resolutions…to finally get around to changing in a significant way. For some
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You know you need to leave him or her. It’s a bad…no…it’s a truly toxic relationship. But you just can’t quit it. You know you need to stop _____________. (Smoking, drinking so much, overeating, cutting, gambling, working so much, killing yourself.) You just can’t stop. You Are Not a Transformer Here’s the simple truth. You don’t have to
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