I’m Tired of Being a Survivor

I’m Tired of Being a Survivor

Have you survived something very difficult in your life? A tough childhood? A major trauma? An abusive marriage? It takes a lot to go through the steps of naming your pain and feeling your pain and moving from being a victim of something very traumatic or painful...
Please Don’t Try to Change

Please Don’t Try to Change

Don’t Try! I mean it. Don’t try to change. Not one thing. Not your bad habits, your bad behavior, or your bad attitude. Surprising advice from a therapist? Not at all!  Here’s why. Trying Doesn’t Work If there is something in your life that isn’t...
Coping With The Loss Of A Pet

Coping With The Loss Of A Pet

Pets for Mental Health Pets add immeasurably to the quality of life…. so much so that I have often advised clients to get one in order to improve their mental health. Pets can give you a reason to get up in the morning if you suffer from depression or grief. Pets can...
Working With Your “Healthy Rebel”

Working With Your “Healthy Rebel”

Have you ever decided you were going to make a change in how you eat or how active you are and you make a plan and set your goals and… you don’t follow through with it? If the answer is yes… it means you’re human.  But wouldn’t you like to be able to stick with...
How To Talk to Your Psychiatrist

How To Talk to Your Psychiatrist

Why Can’t My Psychiatrist Be More Like My Therapist? “My psychiatrist doesn’t listen to me!” “I just walked out with 2 more prescriptions!” “15-minute med checks… give me a break!” These are some of the complaints I hear on a weekly basis from clients who see...
Healing Your Toxic Shame

Healing Your Toxic Shame

Many people feel shame and want to know what they can do about that awful black feeling inside, with good reason. Feeling shame is toxic. It affects how a person thinks and feels about themselves, their self-worth, what and who they deserve in their life, and...