Don’t Say You’re Sorry!

Don’t Say You’re Sorry!

Say you are fighting with your significant other. I know.  It’s not fun, but it happens. What do you think your partner wants the most from you when you’re fighting? A.  for you to give an apology B.  for you to share control of decision...
Giving The Love That Heals

Giving The Love That Heals

Happy Birth Day! Our daughter turned 12 this week, and I’ve been reflecting on what I have learned about parenting since the day she came into the world… “Yes! Make Her Cry!” Hayley’s birth was very quiet and peaceful. I went inward to focus on the job at hand, and...
How Steady Is Your Relationship?

How Steady Is Your Relationship?

COMFY? How Stable is Your Relationship? Take your typical 4-legged wooden stool. It’s nice and stable…if it’s got all 4 legs. You can probably even manage with 3 solid ones. But fewer than 3 and there’s instability…you don’t want to sit on a 2-legged stool. Although...
The Bobsled Principle

The Bobsled Principle

IT’S NOT MY PROBLEM… My favorite image of a team is the 2-person bobsled. (Known fact:  I LOVE THE OLYMPICS!!!!) Imagine for a moment that the person in the back of the bobsled says to the one hunkered down in the front “Hey, teammate, something just fell off the...
The Vow You Really Need

The Vow You Really Need

THE SECRET TO A LONG HAPPY RELATIONSHIP I’m going to share with you one of the greatest secrets to a long-lasting, healthy relationship…other than using the Bobsled Principle, that is! It has to do with the vows that you are willing to make to your partner, once you...