{"id":2831,"date":"2023-05-10T12:02:04","date_gmt":"2023-05-10T12:02:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/anitasanz.com\/?p=2831"},"modified":"2024-09-02T22:34:57","modified_gmt":"2024-09-02T22:34:57","slug":"please-dont-try-to-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/anitasanz.com\/wp-dev\/please-dont-try-to-change\/","title":{"rendered":"Please Don\u2019t Try to Change"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Don\u2019t Try!<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

I mean it. Don\u2019t try to change. Not one thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not your bad habits, your bad behavior, or your bad attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Surprising advice from a therapist? Not at all!  Here\u2019s why.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trying Doesn\u2019t Work<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

If there is something in your life that isn\u2019t working, <\/strong><\/em>trying<\/strong> to change it isn\u2019t going to work, either. The only thing that is going to work is actually changing<\/strong> it. Saying you are going to \u201ctry to change\u201d is code for \u201cI\u2019m not going to change but say that I want to change.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing Works<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

Doing something differently, even if it doesn\u2019t work out the way you planned is change. Change doesn\u2019t have to be perfect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learning a new coping skill is change. Experimenting with a new habit is change. Keeping a record of how you are doing things differently is change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t Fool Yourself<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
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Only change is change. Don\u2019t fool yourself into thinking you really want to change if all you are willing to do is \u201ctry.\u201d Throw trying away and jump in with everything you\u2019ve got, if you\u2019re ready to do things differently in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What have you got to lose?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dr<\/em>.\u00a0Anita Sanz<\/em>, PhD, Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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