{"id":2644,"date":"2023-05-03T10:49:48","date_gmt":"2023-05-03T10:49:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/anitasanz.com\/?p=2644"},"modified":"2025-04-09T22:11:33","modified_gmt":"2025-04-09T22:11:33","slug":"its-snark-week","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/anitasanz.com\/wp-dev\/its-snark-week\/","title":{"rendered":"It\u2019s Snark Week!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-image alignwide uagb-block-f2a5b48a wp-block-uagb-image--layout-default wp-block-uagb-image--effect-static wp-block-uagb-image--align-wide\"><figure class=\"wp-block-uagb-image__figure\"><img decoding=\"async\" srcset=\"https:\/\/anitasanz.com\/wp-dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/AdobeStock_234986903-1024x680.jpeg \" sizes=\"(max-width: 480px) 150px\" src=\"https:\/\/anitasanz.com\/wp-dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/AdobeStock_234986903-1024x680.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"uag-image-2648\" width=\"1024\" height=\"680\" title=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" role=\"img\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:40px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>You know them\u2026 snarky people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The masters of that&nbsp;combination of sarcastic and cynical that ends up being smugly critical and absolutely unbearable to human beings after a while. If the snarks are your friends or co-workers, you can handle it because they will eventually go away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or you will go away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But what if you live with a snark?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Living With A Snark<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>What if every time you screw something up, you can count on your partner to make a snarky remark like \u201cWell, aren\u2019t you the genius?\u201d That should actually be called a re-snark, don\u2019t you think? Or if you ask your partner if they got the mail yet, they say \u201cNo, I was waiting for it to be delivered by drone. Of course, I got the mail.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A Snark In Sheep\u2019s Clothing<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-image alignwide uagb-block-0fe1b3de wp-block-uagb-image--layout-default wp-block-uagb-image--effect-static wp-block-uagb-image--align-wide\"><figure class=\"wp-block-uagb-image__figure\"><img decoding=\"async\" srcset=\"https:\/\/anitasanz.com\/wp-dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/AdobeStock_226294223-1024x683.jpeg \" sizes=\"(max-width: 480px) 150px\" src=\"https:\/\/anitasanz.com\/wp-dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/AdobeStock_226294223-1024x683.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"uag-image-2649\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" title=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" role=\"img\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:40px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Being snarky and sarcastic, although possibly a sign of creativity and verbal intelligence, is also a sign of something else:&nbsp;<strong><em>&nbsp;<\/em>aggression<\/strong> <strong>disguised as humor at your expense.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is a way of communicating something to you indirectly, and in such a way that there is no way for you to respond without looking even more foolish. It is cowardly bullying if you will. But, there\u2019s actually a way to deal with snarks that is both effective and kind of fun, so let\u2019s go snark hunting!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Snark Hunting!<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>The best way to handle a snark is to \u201cplay dumb.\u201d &nbsp;Of course, the snark will say \u201cthat\u2019s not going to be that hard for&nbsp;<em>you<\/em>, now is it?\u201d (Don\u2019t you just hate snarks?) Another way to say that you\u2019re going to play dumb is that you are going to force the snark to own up to what they are&nbsp;doing and communicate <strong>directly<\/strong>, instead of using indirect, sarcastic, snarky communication. You\u2019re going to force the snark to shed his sarcastic wool&nbsp;and come out of hiding!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Examples, Please!<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>Snark: \u201cWell, aren\u2019t you the genius?!\u201d You: \u201cAre you saying that I am a genuis?\u201d Snark: &nbsp;\u201cUmmm\u2026I thought it was obvious I wasn\u2019t calling you a genius.\u201d You: \u201cWhy would you call me a genius if you don\u2019t think I am a genius?\u201d Force the snark to say it: &nbsp;\u201cI was calling you a genius to be mean. &nbsp;Because I didn\u2019t think you were being very smart.\u201d You: \u201cWhy would you do that?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Power of \u201cWhy?\u201d<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>The most powerful question you can ask of a snark is \u201cWhy?\u201d Mainly because the snark doesn\u2019t ever think to ask why they are snarky. Or if it\u2019s okay to be snarky to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it\u2019s high time he started.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Don\u2019t Forget:<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>Now that you know how to handle snarks, you can have some fun with the mean, sarcastic, attempts to belittle remarks that come your way. Refuse to read between the lines and remember to ask the all-important \u201cWhy?\u201d question and you\u2019ll make the ocean a lot safer to swim in. Or your apartment or home to live in. Or your workplace to work in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Snark-free Zones: Come on in. &nbsp;The conversation\u2019s fine!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:14px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Dr<\/em>.\u00a0<em>Anita Sanz<\/em>, PhD, Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-container uagb-block-b2e8c4eb alignfull uagb-is-root-container\"><div class=\"uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap\"><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:45px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:45px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<form role=\"search\" method=\"get\" action=\"https:\/\/anitasanz.com\/wp-dev\/\" class=\"wp-block-search__button-outside wp-block-search__text-button wp-block-search\"    ><label class=\"wp-block-search__label\" for=\"wp-block-search__input-1\" >Search<\/label><div class=\"wp-block-search__inside-wrapper\" ><input class=\"wp-block-search__input\" id=\"wp-block-search__input-1\" placeholder=\"\" value=\"\" type=\"search\" name=\"s\" required \/><button aria-label=\"Search\" class=\"wp-block-search__button wp-element-button\" type=\"submit\" >Search<\/button><\/div><\/form>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You know them\u2026 snarky people. 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