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Imagine you\u2019re given two choices about getting something done:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Choice #1: Do it or else bad things are going to happen to you.       OR<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Choice #2: Do it and I\u2019ll give you the reasons why it would be a good idea for you to do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which choice appeals to you the most?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You Can\u2019t Tell Me What To Do!<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

Even if both choices have some merit, most people are going to choose #2. Most people don\u2019t like to be bullied into doing things. Maybe you\u2019re like most people?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why Do You Do It?<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

Do you eat well because you\u2019re afraid to get fat? Or because it will improve your health and energy? Do you go to work because you\u2019re afraid you\u2019ll be fired if you don\u2019t?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or because you have a contribution to make? Do you stay with someone because you\u2019re afraid to be alone? Or because you are happy, growing, and learning in the relationship?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fear As Motivator<\/h5>\n\n\n\n
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Are you being motivated by fear? You do something or you stay because you\u2019re afraid of the consequences. It\u2019s understandable if you make some decisions based on fear of consequences. Some consequences are best avoided. And Fear sure is a great motivator. But it\u2019s actually not the best one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What Do You Want?<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

Most people like to feel they have a choice and that they are making the decision that is right for them. And not simply because they are afraid of the consequences. And here\u2019s the truth: You will be <\/em>more<\/strong> successful if you make healthy choices in your life because you WANT something good for yourself than you will try to AVOID something bad happening to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No One Likes A Bully<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

Being afraid is like being bullied. By Fear. It\u2019s very tempting to strike back at that Fear Bully by not doing the healthy thing so you can prove who\u2019s in charge. Ever do that? Prove that you\u2019re stronger than the fear of dying of lung cancer, so you keep smoking? That\u2019ll show that bully who\u2019s boss!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You Have A Choice<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t have to let fear be your motivator. You can examine all the good reasons why you might consider doing something, and choose. You have a choice to refuse to let fear of negative consequences be the only reason you change. Use your power wisely!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dr<\/em>.\u00a0Anita Sanz<\/em>, PhD, Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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