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You know you need to leave him or her. It\u2019s a bad\u2026no\u2026it\u2019s a truly toxic relationship. But you just can\u2019t quit it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You know you need to stop _____________. (Smoking, drinking so much, overeating, cutting, gambling, working so much, killing yourself.) You just can\u2019t stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You Are Not a Transformer<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s the simple truth. You don\u2019t have to somehow transform yourself overnight into a \u201cBrand New Person\u201d. The person who can finally say goodbye. The person who only has one drink and stops. The person who chooses meditation over medication. You just have to tip the balance by 1%.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Getting to 51%\u2026<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

If you really want to change, but you \u201cjust can\u2019t\u201d, then you\u2019re 50% ready for something different, and 50% not ready to make any real change. You just have to move 1% in the direction of doing things differently in order to start the process of real change. It only takes that extra 1%.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Embracing Ambivalence<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

If 49% of you still feels like you really want to be with this person you care about, but 51% of you realizes it\u2019s a hopeless sinkhole, you\u2019re going to be able to leave. Maybe not tomorrow\u2026but it will happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If 49% of you really wants to eat everything in the pantry because you\u2019re stressed out, but the other 51% is sick and tired of feeling like crap and putting on more unwanted weight, you\u2019re going to close those pantry doors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Don\u2019t wait for 100%<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

It just takes that 1%.  You don\u2019t have to be 100% on board with anything to change. You just have to be 51% on board \u2026enough to tip the balance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s not as hard to reach. So you CAN say goodbye… and still wish you could have made it work. You CAN make a different, healthier choice, and still wish you could indulge in that bad habit for the rest of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is as close to \u201chaving it all\u201d as you\u2019re going to get\u2026 while you let go of what\u2019s holding you back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dr<\/em>.\u00a0Anita Sanz<\/em>, PhD, Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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