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You probably know what it\u2019s like when the smoke alarm goes off.  The sound is so annoying, irritating, and ear-piercingly unbearable. Alarms are this way for a very good reason. Every thinking person understands that it is to motivate you to either wake up or stop what you\u2019re doing and check to see why the alarm is going off.  There could be a fire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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False Alarm!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes when the smoke alarm goes off, there\u2019s no fire.  There\u2019s not even any smoke! Then you have to figure out why it went off. Maybe it needs new batteries. Maybe you need a new smoke alarm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Human Smoke Alarm<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ll bet there\u2019s a human smoke alarm going off somewhere in your life.  There\u2019s someone who is giving you the \u201cstink eye\u201d or keeps sighing heavily and then walks away, muttering. Someone who keeps trying to get your attention. It could be your boss, your secretary, your significant other, or your child, your co-worker, your friend.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They just keep \u201cgoing off.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why Is Your Alarm Going Off?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

They are annoying.  They are irritating. They may even be absolutely unbearable. Every thinking person understands that your human smoke alarm keeps going off for a very good reason. Maybe your human smoke alarm needs her batteries replaced or recharged? Time, compassion, love, some attention?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or maybe your human smoke alarm is broken. Something isn\u2019t working and it\u2019s not going to be able to warn you appropriately until the problem is fixed.  What is the problem? You\u2019re going to have to figure out what it is and who is the best person to fix it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe There IS A Fire!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

What if your human smoke alarm is going off because he\u2019s trying to warn you that there\u2019s not just smoke, there\u2019s fire?  You\u2019re in danger. Your job may be in danger.  Your relationship might be in danger.  Your child may be in danger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s Alarming\u2026<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s it going to take for you to wake up? What\u2019s it going to take for you to pay attention? To see what\u2019s really going on?  To see what\u2019s burning? So you can save yourself, your loved ones, all the things you find valuable in your life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Warning Signs<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Is anybody constantly nagging you? Has anyone asked you for something and won\u2019t let it go?  They keep repeating the same things over and over and over again. Have you ignored the warning signs that there is something wrong, that there is trouble?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sifting Through the Ashes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

By the time the heat becomes unbearable, it will be too late. Then you\u2019ll get to sift through the ashes and work on starting over. Wondering how you could have missed the sound of the alarm\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dr<\/em>.\u00a0Anita Sanz<\/em>, PhD, Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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